A comedown in your libido can be caused by many factors, from physical discomfort to hormonal changes, and we donâ€™t have to worry if itâ€™s only for a couple of weeks. However, if at some point we still donâ€™t feel like having sex and we donâ€™t understand why, it is time to face it and try to get our sex drive back. One of the best ways of getting through this little issue is to talk about it with our partner to try and look for a solution together.
Plans and changes to get back to wanting to have sex
1. Date nights
Many stable couples stop partying and they swap the club for the couch and the blanket. Itâ€™s not about going out like thereâ€™s no tomorrow, but every once in a while itâ€™s a good idea to get dinner out and then hang out for a bit at a bar or cocktail bar that you both like. Socializing and being surrounded by people in a stimulating place can help you reminisce about old times and share a few laughs and anecdotes. Besides, getting ready to go out will help our self-esteem and we will feel sexier. If we add the disinhibition we feel with a drink, we might have a nice ending to our night.
2. Careful with your medication
If you donâ€™t know whatâ€™s causing your low libido, maybe itâ€™s time to read your medication brochure, because some medications as common as birth control pills have secondary effects that can affect your mood and your sex drive. If thatâ€™s the case, go to your doctor and ask him for an alternative treatment. A simple change in medication can make a difference.
3. Household chores 50%
This tip is based on logic. If your lack of sex is due to tiredness, itâ€™s time to look for a different plan. If you share the chores in an equal way but you alternate the days you do them, every day one of you will be exhausted. Instead of that, share the chores between both every day, you will be at the same level at the end of the day and it wonâ€™t be a pain for any of you.
4. The love nest
Not so long ago we talked about the importance of Feng shui and the decoration of your bedroom to have a good sexual life. If you have a messy room where itâ€™s not pleasant to hang out, itâ€™s very possible that you donâ€™t feel like having sex in the middle of the kids toys, the clothes to fold and that box that has been there ever since your last moving. Clean up your bedroom, put new bedsheets and relaxing elements like candles or flowers. You will realize itâ€™s much more appealing.
5. Plan a night for two
Many couples donâ€™t have time to enjoy sex properly. To try and fix this, plan a special night for yourselves. The important thing is that you know that nobody is going to bother you in a few hours and, also, knowing that night is going to be romantic will help your libido go up all day long.